Behavioral definitions

Insults partner when alone and in front of others.

Swears at partner.

Calls partner demeaning, degrading names.

Makes critical, demeaning comments about partner’s body.

Makes critical comments about partner’s ability to perform roles in home.

Accuses partner, without cause of sexual promiscuity and infidelity.

Makes critical comments about partner’s sexuality or sexual performance.

Makes critical statement about partner’s mental health.

Threatens to do physical harm to partner.

Threatens to leave partner.

Threatens to have sex with someone else.

Tries to prevent partner from having contact with friends and family.

Tries to prevent partner to leave home.

Prevents partner from using car.

Refuse to talk with partners for days.

Jealous of partner’s time spent with other individual (specially of opposite sex).

Discourages partner from obtaining further training or education that would enhance his/her self-esteem and opportunities for advancement.

Long-term Goals:

Terminate verbal and/or psychological abuse and establish a relationship based on respect and a desire for mutual enhancement.


Behavioral Definition:

Intentional infliction of physical pain or injury on partner, or any action perceived by partner as having that intent (e.g. throwing objects at partners, pushing, grabbing, hitting, choking, extreme verbal or sexual coercion, forced sex).

Intentional infliction of psychological pain or injury on partner, or any action perceived by partner as having that intent (e.g. damaging partner’s prized possession, injury to pets, belittling partner, telling partner that she can’t survive alone, monitoring partner’s whereabouts, restricting partner’s access to friends).

آزار روحي چيست ؟

الف ) ‌توهين : حرفهاي ناسزا گفتن مانند “تو احمق هستي” ، “خر و بي شعور هستي” ، “ناقابل هستي” و يا “تو هيچوقت چيزي نمي شوي”

ب ) تهديد : گفتن جملاتي از اين قبيل كه “اگر اينكار را بكني ، اين پيش مي آيد ” ، “اگر اطاقت را تميز نكني،اطاقت راازت مي گيرم” ، “اگر سر موقع به خانه نيائي ، از خانه بيرونت ميكنم” ، “اگر خواهرت را اذيت كني ، سرت را ميبرم”

پ) احساس گناه دادن : گفتن جملاتي مانند “اگر به من گوش ندهي ، من سكته خواهم كرد و مي ميرم” ، “تمام مرض هاي من به خاطر رفتار شماست” ، “من به خاطر شما تمام عمر با پدرتان زندگي كردم” ، “من به خاطر شما سفر كردم”.

ج) احساس شرم : گفتن جملاتي كه او احساس كند بودن و وجود او خوب نيست . مانند: ” اين چه لباسي است كه پوشيده اي ، آبروي مرا بردي” ، “اين چه جور رفتاري است كه تو داري يا اين چه طرز حرف زدن است “

كسي كه دچار احساس شرم از خود مي شود نتيجتا” احساس حقارت ، كمبود ، ناتواني و ضعف نيز ميكند . گمان ميكند آدم بدي است و لياقت داشتن زندگي خوب را ندارد ، شايسته يك رابطه خوب نيست .

كودكاني كه احساس شرم از خود دارند و حرمت نفس شان را از دست داده اند معمولا” كودكاني گوشه گير ، منزوي ، خجالتي و غيراجتماعي ميشوند .

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